Winter is far from the sexiest of the seasons.
It’s cold. It’s dark. It’s windy. Instead of showing off our skin, we cover every square inch of it. Sometimes, our noses do terrible things.
Our libidos can tend to drop off in the chillier months. Not only does the lack of sunlight sap our energy, it’s hard to feel attractive when your skin is raw and chapped and you’re decked out in toques, lumpy reindeer sweaters and ski pants.
According to Naturopath Tammy Grime, maintaining a healthy lifestyle in the winter months will help keep your sex life from freezing over.
“Exercise is tantamount to feeling sexy and producing healthy endorphin and testosterone levels,” says Grime. “Get outside and exercise. You need sun on your skin, a flush in your face and cardiovascular challenge enough to make you mildly breathless at times. Go skating, snowshoeing, skiing, jogging, play dodge ball, have a snowball fight. Be as active as you are in the summer — don’t hibernate.”
Grime also explains that eating a diet of healthy, whole foods that are low in sugars, sodium, fried fats and processing goes a long way towards keeping your mood and energy levels up — among other things.
For some, a decreased wintertime libido might be an indication of other, more serious problems. Consult your family doctor in order to rule out any abnormal lack of interest in sex being linked to a physical or mental concern.
“Low libidos are often related to depression,” says Caroline Lensen, a Toronto-based psychotherapist and sex therapist. “Whenever I come across a man in particular who complains about low desire, I always check for signs of depression. Libido is (connected to overall) energy and because men’s bodies don’t lie — they either have an erection of they don’t — often that can directly affect their desire.”
While you should always discuss such concerns with your health care professional, Grime recommends Vitamin D and the purchase of grow lights in order to help treat mild depression that may stem from Seasonal Affective Disorder.
But even though it’s rare that we’re looking and feeling our best in the colder months, we may as well make the most of what the season has to offer.
“Winter, to me, that brings out a sort of coziness,” says Lensen. “It’s the perfect time to cozy up and lie around. In the summertime, we’re up early doing chores or working in the garden. During the winter, a lot of couples spend more time in the home and get into having fires, that kind of thing.”
Lensen suggests making the most of winter by dropping the kids off at a friend’s house for the day so you can spend an afternoon elevating your heart rate with some skiing, sledding or snowball fights before coming back inside and warming up in some very special ways.
For couples that can afford it, booking a weekend away at a romantic lodge is a wonderful way to inject some serious heat into the bleak mid-winter.
“Most couples say that they have a much better time sexually and romantically when they go away,” says Lensen. “And the reason is that suddenly you’ve got time for each other. You’re relaxing and just thinking about themselves and each other and living in the present.”
Who knows? Maybe we’ll even be disappointed when spring comes.
Sexy Typewriter blogs about her dating failures – online and otherwise – atSexytypewriter.com.